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4 Types of People to Avoid When You’re Grieving


Grieving Process

Posted On: Sep 01, 2016

4 Types of People to Avoid When You’re Grieving

4 Types of People to Avoid When You’re Grieving

The love and support of friends and family are incredibly important while you’re grieving a loss. However, not everyone will have the empathy, emotional maturity, and temperament to help you heal. Certain types of people may even lead you to feel worse while you’re grieving. Below is a list of 4 types of people you should avoid when you’re grieving.

“It’s All About Me”

We all know someone who quickly makes every conversation about them. While this friend or family member may have the best intentions, they have no idea how to support you. You can find yourself feeling frustrated with this person and feeling as if you’re competing with them to be heard in the conversation. During your time of need, you need to be surrounded by those who are able to listen and empathize.

“Your Feelings Make Me Uncomfortable”

There are some people who are very uncomfortable when being confronted with their feelings and the feelings of others. A friend who is uncomfortable with sharing how they feel may become irritated with you for bringing up your negative emotions, will try to change the subject, or will expect you to “get over it” and may not respect your need to grieve. Surround yourself with compassionate friends who will accept and acknowledge your feelings. 

“It Could’ve Been Worse”

This person probably means no harm and is having trouble relating to your situation. Statements like, “It could’ve been worse,” can easily be taken the wrong way when you’re already feeling emotional and sensitive. These types of statements can be dismissive of your grief. You may be able to talk to this person about their statements and how it makes you feel. They may not realize how negative their words are and will change if given the opportunity.

“I’m Here for You, But Not Really”

An unreliable friend or family member should be on the top of your list of people to avoid during a crisis. After losing a loved one, we often feel abandoned, disappointed, and let down. Someone saying they will be there for you, but being unavailable every time you need someone to talk to or encourage you, can be a devastating experience. Put your heart and trust with people you know you can count on.

In our time of need, we should make sure we are surrounding ourselves with the right people to help us during the grieving process. Build your support team from family and friends that are good listeners, compassionate, trustworthy, and empathetic.