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Bereaved Introverts Grieve Differently


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Posted On: Mar 23, 2017

Bereaved Introverts Grieve Differently

Speaking as an introvert, it's easy to misunderstand this group of people, who are not exactly shy so much as … well, introverted. They are quieter, more reserved, and sometimes awkward. Large crowds or passionate displays of emotion may at times confound them, sap their energy, and leave them feeling uncomfortable, ill-at-ease, and at a loss. This can sometimes come off as cold, especially during tragedies or periods of bereavement, but that is rarely if ever the intention of the introverted mourner. Introversion simply causes people to grieve differently, although introverts still experience all the stages of grief.

Their Outward Displays of Emotion Are Rare

That is, sometimes it's rare, sometimes it's quiet. The main point to take away is that introverts rarely want to be seen showing strong emotions. As such, they typically try their hardest not to weep or display sadness in public. If they feel angry about the death, that's not something they'll quickly reveal, either. This is one of the aspects that can appear cold or unfeeling. It often makes introverts seem unemotional, but the reverse is true.

Big or emotional Groups Overwhelm Them

As much as introverted individuals want to be there for their family and friends, it's difficult for them to be in groups with passionate people. Whether that emotion is sadness or excitement, it can sap the introvert's own energy. This doesn't mean that s/he will avoid the situation, but it explains why an introvert is quiet and may hold back.

The Feelings May Come After the Fact

Introverts tend to be sensitive, not cold. However, while some are given to displays of emotion, others need time to process how they feel. As a result, an outpouring of grief and anguish may come out after the fact—after the death, the viewing, the funeral, and so on. That's entirely natural, and it doesn't mean the introvert in question is wrong or strange.

Introverts feel things deeply. Showing and being around strong emotions can pose the problem. Then again, in situations with relatives and close friends, giving into grief is sometimes easier.