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Examining the Relationship Between Lethargy and Grief


Grieving Process

Posted On: Jan 23, 2017

Examining the Relationship Between Lethargy and Grief

Grief is a draining emotion. It saps your will to do anything. After a while, you're too exhausted even to cry. But why is that? Why are sadness and lethargy so inextricably linked? It's worth examining because of the irony. We experience this profound tiredness at a time when we most need extra energy. The trappings of death are not easy. From comforting and sharing last words with your loved one to preparing them for the next part of their journey to supporting and hosting friends and family, there's no end to the tasks you have to perform—and yet, sometimes, it's impossible to even get out of bed in the morning.

Depression Is an Energy-Sucker

Make no mistake, you are experiencing a form of depression. It's situation and—hopefully—short-lived, but it's still depression. You're tired five minutes after you get out of bed. Getting ready to go out of the house is exhausting. Just getting ready for the day in general knocks you off your feet. No matter how much coffee you drink, you're still bleary-eyed and fuzzy-minded. Your limbs feel like lead. Your feet feel like concrete.

Shock Keeps You Standing Still

Even if your loved one's death was in some way expected, it's still a shock. A relative or friend passing suddenly is also a surprise to the system. Everyone reacts differently to shock, but it can and does leave you immobile and numb. Because you cannot immediately cope with the heartbreaking reality of the situation, you're unable to move forward or backward in your daily life.

Being Overwhelmed Stops Your Progress

Death is almost always overwhelming. Again, even an expected death leaves chaos and tragedy in its wake. Sometimes, when the mind is too overwhelmed, it simply shuts down and goes on strike. Although that form of lethargy doesn't take the form of exhaustion, you're still lethargic.

This will pass, but sometimes you have to push yourself. It's far too tempting to continue floating along without making any decisions or worrying about what happens next. Don't give in to that urge.