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Find Happiness by Loving Yourself the Way You Are


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Posted On: Nov 03, 2015

Loving Yourself Blog

There’s an old saying that goes something like “before you can love someone else, you have to love yourself.” One reason that this rings true is that people tend to treat you how you expect to be treated. It’s true that some people treat others better because they’re more compassionate and other people have a nasty habit of being unfair. But there is something to be said about the signals we send out regarding our sense of self-worth. If you truly love yourself, chances are that others will be happy to be around you, too. Here are a few ways that you can begin practicing loving yourself just the way you are.  

Don’t stress over your appearance. Looks are valued too much in our culture and this fact can leave some people emotionally paralyzed about their appearance. While it is good to look your best with good hygiene and grooming habits, it’s counterproductive to become obsessed with your looks. If you’re part of the 99.9% of society who doesn’t possess movie star attractiveness, you should be relieved. Why? Because you know that you can’t get by on your looks alone. When you’re a normal person who doesn’t regularly stun people with your beauty, you need to have a winning personality, a good attitude, and a sense of humor to win people over.

Take care of yourself. Even while you’re working on not becoming obsessed with appearance, know that you deserve to be healthy. You take care of the people, pets, and things that you love, right? So why not take care of yourself? Everyone develops a few bad habits like eating poorly and brushing off exercise. When you find yourself succumbing to unhealthy habits more often than you’d like, take a step back and think about what you’re doing. Imagine that you were in charge of someone else’s decisions about their health, someone that you love. You’d want to make the best decisions for them, right? Do the same for yourself and choose healthy options.

Get to know yourself. There’s a reason why long-married couples still go out on date nights. Long after the honeymoon is over and couples settle back into the routine of working and paying bills, some of the initial spark is lost. But it’s possible to keep the fire burning for each other by setting aside some time to get to know each other again. You can do the same for yourself. Set aside some quiet time for yourself where you can avoid all distractions. You could go on a walk alone, meditate, write, or have a meal at a sidewalk café and just people watch. Sometimes the thoughts buzzing in your head seem like huge distractions, but maybe they just need to be sorted out when you have time to listen.

Don’t compare yourself to others. It’s all too easy to look to someone else to try to find your place in the world, but it’s not a healthy (or rational!) habit. Even though we’re all guilty of occasionally wanting someone else’s life because that person may seem to have it all, life is too complicated to make simple comparisons like this. Who knows what other things that person may be dealing with? Who knows what parts of your life they are wishing they had themselves? Confidence and acceptance with your own situation is the most valuable asset you can possess.