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How Can You Tell Your Loved Ones that You're Dying?


Grieving Process

Posted On: Jan 18, 2017

How Can You Tell Your Loved Ones that You're Dying?

It is the conversation that no one wants to have. Many terminal patients who have written about their experiences describe it as the most difficult part of their entire journey. Telling the people you love that you've come to the end of your life is heartbreaking. It's devastating for you to say and it's painful for them to hear. However, because you need their support and they need yours, it is essential that you tell your closest family and friends. After a certain point, you can't hide what's happening, anyway. Take as much time as you need to come to grips with the news yourself, then begin the process of breaking the news to your loved ones.

Tell One Person at a Time

This is one option, and it's the most private and personal. Tell your partner or spouse first, or your best friend, or perhaps even your parents. Talk to the person who makes you feel the most comfortable and at ease. That will help you relay the news more smoothly, which will also make your loved one receive the news more calmly.

Ask for Help Sharing the News

After you tell the first person, you can ask him or her to help you spread the news among friends and family. This can ease the burden that's resting on your shoulders considerably. If you enlist the help of someone who communicates better than you do, then that can also be beneficial in the sharing of the news. Your loved one might come across better than you do.

Gather Everyone Together

Maybe it's easier for you to tell all your loved ones at once. In that case, you could call a family meeting with all your closest family members, as well as a get-together for your dearest friends, or you can combine the two. This method has its advantages because everyone is together, which gives them the opportunity to comfort one another—and you, of course.

Enlist the Help of a Professional

A grief counselor, social worker, nurse, or doctor can help you deliver the news to your family, as well. He or she can answer any questions, explain your diagnosis, and expand upon what both yourself and your loved ones can expect in the coming weeks and months.

This is a hard time for you and everyone close to you. Be there for each other. Lean on each other. Love each other fiercely.