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Keeping the Memory Alive for the Kids: Celebrating Loved Ones Lost


Grieving Process

Posted On: Feb 17, 2017

Keeping the Memory Alive for the Kids: Celebrating Loved Ones Lost

Traversing the path of grief is difficult enough for adults, but it's particularly hard for children, and helping them along the way is somewhat tricky. Depending on the age of your child, you have to strike a balance between delicate and truthful. You don't want to misinform your child in any way or make her or him believe that your loved one will come back, but you also don't want to present the subject in a disturbing, scary, or complicated way. Children are adaptable. They go with the flow and adapt quickly to change. As a result, one of the gentlest ways to help them grieve is to continue celebrating your loved one's life, presence, and impact over time.

Keep Pictures Dotted Throughout the House

The presence of photos depicting the deceased relative or friend will keep their memory alive in the mind of your child. Further, it reinforces the idea that although people who die do not come back, they remain alive in our hearts, minds, and memories. With particularly young kids, feel free to talk about the pictures. For example, if there's a photo of your child with her or his recently passed grandmother, the two of you can talk about what's happening in the picture, where it was taken, and what they were doing together.

Visit their Grave Regularly

Wherever you've laid your loved one to rest, visiting it regularly is a warm, meaningful away to keep her or his memory alive for your child. If the departed is in a cemetery, you and your kid can take flowers, balloons, and similar trinkets. The time spent there is valuable. However, the time spent in a mausoleum or with an urn is also valuable. Your child can continue sharing stories and memories with the physical reminder of her or his loved one.

Hold Back Some Keepsakes

A favorite dress. A beloved hat. A pocket watch. A ring. A book. Keep the items that meant the most to the person who passed. Save them for your child. Share them now or wait until your kid is a little older. Having something that belonged to someone so important will keep the memory vibrant and present.

Because kids adapt so easily, you have the opportunity to make death seem natural, albeit painful, while ensuring your child that her or his loved one will stay around forever in the memories of the past.