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Overcoming Grief


Bereavement Relief

Posted On: Oct 06, 2014

overcoming grief

The loss of someone close is one of the most devastating experiences a person will go through in life. During the initial stages of grief, it might seem as if you might never feel normal again. This feeling itself is normal. Losing a loved one, whether it is sudden or expected, can come at a great shock. Even if you had known for some time that the inevitable was coming, you might not have had any idea how you would react when the day arrived. But no matter how you feel now, it is important to remember that things will get better day by day. You may feel now that you will never fully accept the loss, but it is possible to move toward finding peace with what happened, slowly but surely.

Each person grieves in his or her own way, and it’s important not to compare the way you’re grieving with the way you have seen others deal with death. Brothers and sisters might not grieve in the same way or within the same timeframe after losing a parent. Family relationships are complicated during life, and they are no less so afterward. Don’t let anyone else give you a roadmap for how you should feeling during the grieving process. Don’t plan a roadmap for yourself, either, as you have no idea what each day might bring. It’s ok to be angry, to laugh, to cry, and not to cry. You might find that you don’t shed a tear at the funeral but find yourself crying uncontrollably days later. There’s nothing wrong with that.

As much as you should feel free to grieve in your own way, don’t grieve alone. Take comfort in family and friends. Don’t be afraid to show emotion when you feel it. Being open and honest about your feelings in front of others who have suffered the same loss can help them find peace with their own feelings. If you think it might be helpful to talk with people outside of your family about the loss, join a support group. You may find that speaking with people in relative anonymity about your loss frees you to speak more openly about your feelings.

Be sure to take care of your physical health while you are grieving. Get plenty of rest, eat right, and exercise. Avoid alcohol and drugs, as they just simply mask the pain for a short while and delay any progress in the grieving process. If you feel good physically, your mental wellbeing is sure to follow.

It is natural to feel any number of emotions during the grieving process, including anger, loneliness, or even just a feeling of numbness. These are all normal. But if you can’t seem to shake these feelings for a long time, or if they turn into other signs of actual depression, such as thoughts of suicide or feelings of worthlessness, seek help from your doctor or a mental health professional. It may help to speak to a therapist who specializes in overcoming grief.