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Planning a Memorial that Respectfully Honors Your Loved One


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Posted On: Apr 05, 2017

Planning a Memorial that Respectfully Honors Your Loved One

Often, the funeral itself just isn't enough. It doesn't adequately describe the person who's no longer with you. In that case, many mourners choose to supplement with their own memorial. Crafting your own way to honor the deceased can help you through the grieving process by giving you a purpose and opening up your mind and heart to all the memories of your loved one. In sharing information about the funeral services, you can invite your guests to participate as well. Let them know when the memorial will take place, such as during the funeral or afterward, at the reception.

Set Up a Memory Table

A memorial table is a simple way to both honor and remember the person who died. You can easily set up a table anywhere, whether you choose to create a space at the funeral home or the family home during the reception. Place photos of your loved one on the table, along with items of personal significance and mementos that were important to her or him. Invite the attendees to bring in things that belonged to the deceased or items that remind them of her or him.

Start a Memory Book

A memory book is a lovely keepsake to have after the funeral. Moreover, it's something you can share with all the survivors. It begins with a simple photo album, an empty one. Inside, you and the other mourners can place photos, trinkets, and small mementos. You can also write messages describing the items, your feelings, or your sadness on the pages, alongside the items you add.

Put Out Memory Cards

Memory cards are simple index cards. However, there's nothing simple about their symbolism. When you place them out for guests, include instructions. Explain that they are to write down one memory per card, describing something meaningful or personal about the deceased. There's no limit to the number of cards anyone can use, of course. At the end of everything, you'll have a treasure trove of glowing memories.

Invite Guests to Write Letters

Before the services, let the guests know that they're invited to write letters to the deceased, talking about whatever they like. This brings some amount of closure, and it also gives everyone the opportunity to vent their feelings. Set up a board or another space at the funeral or reception where people can pin or display their letters.

Saying goodbye involves so many emotions. Channeling those feelings into a memorial will help you and the other survivors, plus you have a tangible, visible way to honor the loved one who died.