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Preparing to Deliver a Eulogy for the Departed


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Posted On: Mar 07, 2017

Preparing to Deliver a Eulogy for the Departed

Being asked to deliver a eulogy for a loved one is an honor, but it's also terrifying and emotional. The task is usually given to someone close to the deceased, or to several people. That means that your feelings are raw, close to the surface, and still both sensitive and intense. Talking about your loved one is hard, and the idea of doing it in front of a group of fellow mourners might leave you undone. You can do this, however. You have the strength. You can persevere. This is a wonderful, loving way to honor your loved one a final time.

Decide What Kind of Eulogy You Want to Give

Above all, it's important to share appropriate material. That being said, “appropriate” often depends on the deceased's personality. For example, there is absolutely nothing wrong with delivering a eulogy that contains humor, even ribaldry, as long as the departed would have approved. Some people live a life that demands a celebration at the end of their journeys; their wakes and funerals, though sad, celebrate the spirit of the person.

Personal eulogies are also popular. These are moving, emotional speeches that share special memories, intimate details, and fond anecdotes. They may also contain humor, but they may also be sad, bittersweet, or full of grief.

If you really don't know what to share or you're nervous about speaking in public, you can stick to a more standard eulogy. Share biographic details about the departed, stories about her or his life, and pieces of personal information. Stick to the facts, but try to sprinkle something personal throughout the speech.

Gather Your Memories

As you write or plan your eulogy, take some time for yourself. It's hard to focus through your grief, and it hurts to deliberately call up memories of your loved one, but those are the personal touches you need to include in your commemoration. What stands out to you? What moments mattered the most? What made you proud of your loved one?

Don't Hide Your Emotions

Once the moment comes, and you're standing in front of family members, friends, and all the people who loved the departed, don't worry about how you feel. You can cry as you read your eulogy. You can laugh. You can express anger if that's what you feel. The people to whom you're speaking understand. They're right there with you.

Don't pass up this opportunity out of fear. Take this moment to honor the person you loved and lost. Be as real, open, and honest as possible. Send your loved one off with an eloquent, touching memorial.