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Self-Care Tips for Finding Relief from Your Bereavement


Bereavement Relief

Posted On: Jan 06, 2017

Self-Care Tips for Finding Relief from Your Bereavement

Grief is exhausting. You cannot make the mistake of thinking that you are selfish or self-centered if your loss saps your energy or leaves you depressed and you need to take care of yourself. You're not doing anyone any good at all if your feelings leave you lethargic, unable to care for yourself, and uninterested in the world around you. However, those are very real symptoms that people have when they're in mourning. Please understand that even as you grieve the loss of someone meaningful to you, it's still essential to focus on self-care.

Bathe in Sunshine Wherever You Can

Does that sound silly? It's not. You need the sunshine vitamin during a time like this. Grief and depression are both energy-suckers. They sap you, drain you, and leave you exhausted, indifferent, and sedentary. Go outside, even if you do it on your own. However, you can also share your outdoor time with other people. If you can't make it outside, throw open the windows and sit in the light. It helps even on cloudy days. Still, try to go outdoors as often as possible.

Resist the Urge to Stay Inside

It's tempting, especially when you reach a point of sadness that feels like it's going to last forever. You have to resist that desire, though. Get out. Take a walk. Go shopping. Simply sit on the porch. Try to engage where and when you can, and with whom. The more you engage, the better. You may have to force yourself at first, and that won't feel much like self-care, but it is.

Give Yourself Permission to Feel Good

We feel guilty when we're happy during a period of bereavement. It's natural. It feels like being happy is an affront to the life just lost. It's not. It's okay for you to feel happy, to feel pleasure, to smile, and to laugh. Don't let yourself feel guilty just because you're no longer numb. That's a good thing.

Do Something that Brings You Pleasure

Pursue your favorite hobby, whether it's knitting or painting or cooking. Work out. Go for a run. Take a hot bath. Have an intimate moment with someone you love. Everything looks black and white during a period of grief. The colors fade and everything seems softer. Doing things that make you happy will slowly bring the colors back into your world.

Accept Comfort

That means you should even take comfort from yourself. Spend time with people who console you. Wrap yourself up in your warmest sweater. Cover up in a blanket in front of the fire. Take a moment to sip a hot cup of tea during a hard day.

Self-care is simple but essential. You have to take care of yourself, or your grief will undo you.