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Someday Grief Will Become Gratitude


Grieving Process

Posted On: Feb 28, 2017

Someday Grief Will Become Gratitude

It's impossible to believe. Gratitude is the last emotion on your mind in the aftermath of a loss. There is no way you will ever feel grateful about anything involving the death of someone you love. It's understandable that you feel that way, and no one in the world will blame you. This is an utterly unlikely prospect—but it will happen. It's cold comfort immediately after you lose someone, but in time, as you make your way through the grieving process, it will matter. When it happens, you will welcome it, and it will warm you.

You Were Blessed by Your Loved One's Presence

It wasn't for long enough—it never is—but whether it lasted for five years or fifty, your loved one blessed you with her or his presence. Even in your grief and sadness, you recognize that, don't you? Your life was and is that much richer because this special person touched it. Never dispute that. Never doubt it. Hold onto it during your bereavement, especially on the days when the loss hits you the hardest. You were blessed by a bright, beautiful person who loved you and accepted your love in return.

Nostalgia Sows the Seeds of Gratitude

In time, grief transitions into a softer, warmer, less painful emotion. Nostalgia comes into play. No longer do memories of your loved one leave you prostrate with grief. Now those memories light you from within. They make you happy. The memories are still bittersweet sometimes, and tears may accompany your laughter, but the sweetness is a welcome change, and besides, the bitterness will fade with the passing of time, as well. It's in this period that gratitude finds its roots.

In the Fullness of Time...

The effects your loved one had on your life reveal themselves even more over time. Along with nostalgia, this makes something magical happen. You will see something that your loved one enjoyed—a beautiful painting, a sailboat, a star in the sky—or something will remind you of the departed, and you will remember. You will do something that would've made your loved one proud, and you will blossom with that realization. That is where gratitude grows.

You see, you will feel appreciation for having the opportunity to know the person you lost in the first place. You may have lost them, but they live on in your memory, in your heart, and in the lessons they taught you.