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Take These Steps When You Feel Alone in Your Grief


Bereavement Relief

Posted On: Jan 13, 2017

Take These Steps When You Feel Alone in Your Grief

Grief is a solitary emotion. We all experience it differently, we grieve differently, and we cope in the way that works for us. Although the act of mourning almost always involves fellowship with friends and family and although support groups are enormously beneficial, at its heart grief is still something we experience in private. However, even though grieving is often done in solitude, bear in mind that there is an immense difference between solitude and loneliness. It's scary to feel as if you're entirely alone in your grief. It's not healthy, either. If you find yourself feeling too lonely and too solitary, these steps should help you.

Reach Out to Someone Who Knows What You're Going Through

Ideally, you can reach out to someone who knew and loved the person who recently passed. In a perfect world, we would always mourn with our family members and friends. Unfortunately, that does not always happen for a variety of reasons. It's okay to reach out to someone who had no connection to or relationship with the deceased. If you have a friend or confidante who's gone through a loss of their own, reach out to that person. Sometimes, it helps simply to be around someone who understands the pain of loss.

Write Down Your Thoughts and Feelings

This is still a solitary process, but it's nevertheless beneficial. Writing down your fears, your anger, your sadness, and the other emotions that crowd your mind during times of loss and sadness is a way to shape them and put them into perspective. You can understand your feelings better when you see them written down. In addition to putting you in touch with your grief, this exercise defines and explains your loneliness.

Talk to a Professional

You may need to seek the aid of a professional counselor or therapist. There are grief counselors who specifically work with people who have lost someone and they can help you work through the grieving process while soothing your feelings of loneliness. If a therapist isn't quite your cup of tea, then you can also look into joining a grief group or another support group. Often, the act of opening up to strangers is cathartic, and you may come away with new friends.

You are not alone. Even when it feels like no one else in the world understands what you're going through, you are not alone. This pain will pass—even though it feels like it's going to last forever.