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The Traditional Course of Bereavement and How It Affects You


Bereavement Relief

Posted On: Jun 15, 2017

The Traditional Course of Bereavement and How It Affects You

The course of bereavement is not to be confused with the stages of grief, which are entirely different. Grief and bereavement often intersect, but there are subtle differences. Consider bereavement the beginning of your grief, when everything is fresh, raw, painful, and confusing. Those are the moments when shock takes hold, and it's hard to reconcile what's happening in your family or circle of loved ones. To better understand what it means to be and feel bereaved, it's critical to become familiar with the path bereavement is generally supposed to take.

First Comes Protest

At this point of your bereavement, you're angry. You want to argue with death. Moreover, you're initially numb. Feelings of unreality wash over you constantly. It's impossible to believe that this is truly, honestly happening. It seems like a cruel joke because the idea that a tragedy of this magnitude could touch your family or your life is ludicrous. It's laughable. We all believe that ourselves and our loved ones are secretly untouchable.

Next, You Search for Answers

During the next stage of your bereavement, you're simply searching. You want answers and explanations. You want to understand. Not only are you distressed, but you can feel yourself pining for what you lost. You're willing to do anything to bring back your loved one, but you can't.

Detachment and Despair Follow

Your life gradually becomes more disorganized. Despair is your dominant emotion. At this point, you might become more solitary and eschew company or companionship. Even if you don't want to be alone, you become a lonely person. Your grief makes you feel isolated, and the chaos of your life makes you feel out of control.

Recovery Comes with Reorganization

Gradually, following no set rules or time limits, recovery will come. You'll first notice organization and calmness creeping back into your life, even if they emerge in drips. You care about life again. You care about neatness and tranquility.

Bereavement is different for everyone. Just because it ends, that doesn't mean that you're no longer sad or grieving. However, you're now ready to start your journey toward healing and moving on with your life.